My voice, my thoughts, my beauty in twenty-five shades
I am not for sale
Don’t steal me
Don’t reprint me without permission
Feji Khai does not have an unseen eye watching you
But she believes that you will comply.
I am 25, you will love me.
Copyright © 2017, FEJI KHAI
Some things to note.
You may or may not find errors in this work. I will treat myself to a special
treat if none is found but should you find any, kindly let us know.
This book was born to inspire; to stir you towards becoming all that you can
We all need inspiration. This book is for you as it is for me.
This book has no table of contents, just go ahead and read.
TAKE FEAR ON THE RIDE WITH YOU!
I once heard something. It was a quote. I was reading through Facebook
when I saw it on the wall of a special friend, Divine Basil Frank. I
immediately wrote it down in my journal as it became equally engraved in
“Do it afraid”!
In the course of time, as I wrote down fresh ideas and goals, these words
became my companion, always whispering to me, nudging me to go ahead,
to go for my dreams by all means, even if I walked the path with wobbling
This quote is not in any way suggesting that we go about afraid. It is in no
way condoning fear. Fear is toxic, it chops off our wings, so instead of
soaring, we crawl. “Do it afraid” is simply said in the light of courage, in
relation to rising to do that which we have been given to do, rising up
courageously even in the face of oppositions.
BE COURAGEOUS! IT TAKES COURAGE TO TRAIL NEW PATHS.
What is that thing that you know you should be doing, that thing you have
been desiring to do? What do you have a flair for but have not done
because the voice of fear keeps holding you back, stealing from you the
courage to soar? I urge you to soar. Fear is overrated and can only stop
you if you let it.
Take fear on a ride with you. Do that which you must, with fear on the back
seat. You are the driver, you call the shots.
“What if it doesn’t work”, someone is asking. What if it works?
Do it! Take steps! Do it boldly, or with fear, but do it either way.
YOU ARE A HOST OF COUNTLESS CREATIVITY.
There’s a host of creativity in us all; this is a fact. However, situations and
circumstances have made most people to live budded lives; like dry peas in a
There are boundless ways to a concept or idea; a massive store of creativity
abounds in you. How do you fully maximize the depth, the breadth of the
peculiar greatness in your being?
It’s simple. To begin, it is by deciding to be different from the usual and to be
more than you are presently; to accept that your way or any other way you are
familiar with is not the only way. This decision, opens in you a channel from
which creativity begins to flow.
You should agree that there’s more to you than meets the eye; there’s an angel,
a dragon, a lion, a leader in you.
Being creative is being alive. No two Days dawn alike, no two people look
exactly alike, even the most identical of twins differ in their core. Since this is true,
it is therefore true that you are unique. There’s something in you that can’t be
found in any other; there’s a flavor to you that can’t be seen anywhere else.
Take off the concrete piles barricading the streams of your uniqueness, let the
banks break. Unleash the dragon in you; it will slay the beasts of mediocrity with
its fire. Unleash the lion in you, let us here your roars.
RELEASE, THE LEADER IN
YOU, LET HUMANITY BLOOM.
Be true to you, trust your instincts, be comfortable with being different, and be
at home in your style.
WHATEVER YOU WANT TO BE YOU CAN BE!
Read this funny but deeply insightful conversation between a mother (Ireti
Oladapo) and her daughters (Missy and Mimi Oladapo) aged five and three
Missy: I am the queen of Cartwheel (Katwe)
Mimi: I am the queen of Cartwheel
Missy: Where is Cartwheel?
Mum: Katwe is a place in Uganda
Missy: Can I be the queen of Cartwheel?
Mum: You can be anything you want to be
Missy: I am the queen of this house
Mum: Good (Wondering where that then places me)
Missy: Can I be the queen of Lagos State?
Mum: You can be anything you decide in your heart to be
What a powerful message from a mother to her daughters! It is a message for all
You can be anything you want to be, anything, just anything. Whatever you say
you can be, you can very well be.
OPPOSITIONS MAY ENCROACH, BUT A STRONG DETERMINATION IN THE HEART
WILL LEVEL ANY MOUNTAIN OF OPPOSITIONS.
Weigh all your options, explore,
dream, and make up your mind for what you want. It is achievable when you are
aware it is, and that is my desire, that you know without any shadow of doubt
that you can be ANYTHING you decide in your heart to be. It’s between you and
your decision, God made that possible.
FEAR CAN BE POSITIVELY TOXIC.
Fear of failing can be a positive thing. It can propel one to succeed.
The fear of sicknesses can push anyone to value healthy living and do what he
can to stay healthy.
My point is this: There is a positive DNA in every negative bloodstream, it’s more
like saying in every disappointment is a blessing. It’s all about what you allow to
constrain and define you.
I have decided that that which I fear, I will face squarely and I will see the path of
greatness that lies there.
Legendary David faced the bear and the lion fearfully, but he did not have to
face Goliath that way.
WHEN WE LEARN TO FACE OUR FEARS, WE EVENTUALLY BECOME SO
STRONG, SO BRAVE, SO COURAGEOUS, SO THAT WHAT SHOULD SCARE
OTHERS INVITE US TO VICTORY, AND THEN WE ARE TERMED HEROES.
Allow the hero in you to be born. Man, release that seed of hero in you;
Woman, push out that baby of greatness in you. Give it life, nurture it and watch
Are you scared of singing that song, sing it anyway. Do you fear to walk the
stage, contesting for your beauty, go in anyway. It buttresses the first quote in
this book “Do it afraid!”
There is more to learn in failure than in never trying, and who says you will fail.
DO NOT SIT WISHING, START AND KNOW GREATNESS.
This one is as simple as it states, however, I will expatiate all the same.
So many think they can be great by simply wishing to be. If wishes were
horses, beggars would sure ride. It is good to wish, but that has never been
enough. You can’t stare at a plate of food in front of you and just wish it will
find its way into your mouth. You may wait for all eternity, yet it simply
won’t. This is exactly how weird it appears when you don’t take any steps
towards achieving that which you wish for.
UNTIL A WISH IS STRONG ENOUGH TO MAKE YOU ACT, IT DIES
ALONE WITHOUT ACCOMPLISHING ANYTHING. LET YOUR WISH
LIVE, AND REPRODUCE, START!
Greatness is available and that to every human being. No one is born
greater than another, yet some are greater than some because they dared
to allow their wishes to live and reproduce, they turned their wishes into
wagons that amass wealth.
Until you start, greatness sleeps, but it awakens to you as you start.
Start! Write that book! Produce that song! Join that group! Write that exam!
Take that training!
WHO ARE THE BIRDS OF YOUR KIND OF FEATHER?
I love cooking, but I never used to. I didn’t like cooking as such until I met
Uloma Okoro, my friend. So passionate is she about cooking, and without a
conscious effort, I became so too. Now, I enjoy cooking, I enjoy having
people eat my food. Who are the birds of your kind of feather?
The power to stand for your beliefs and values is most potent when your
intimate folks share the same belief and values. It is not until when a
person threatens to kill you that the person is termed harmful. Anyone that
does not share the same values with you, who does not believe as you do,
such a one need not be of your inner caucus because he can be harmful to
you and posterity in the long run.
YOUR CLOSE FOLKS ARE THOSE ONES
THAT YOUR HEART HAS LATCHED ONTO. YOU CARE FOR THEM AND THEY
CARE FOR YOU.
Their words matter to you, their values too and because
you are intimately knit together, it is easier for them to influence you. These
people should therefore share same core belief and values with you.
Choose your persons wisely. Your spouse, your special friend, your business
partners, your mentors. You become and think more like these people
overtime. Pay attention to these ones. Should you notice any one who is
not in your lane, decide to walk away, and the occasion will present itself. It
may not be a pleasant experience, but it will lead to a pleasant existence for